So I need a little heart-to-heart for a quick second. I just finished a book written by one of my favorite authors, and the reason she’s a favorite is because of how much she does for my perspective on love. I’m a ‘burn the bridge’ type of person, not a very forgiving woman really if something hurts me bad enough. But when I read her books, and I read about her heroes and heroines fucking up and trying everything and then some to make up for it, it makes me believe that there are forever loves in the world. That there are people- or at least that one couple -who love and love forever.
Yes, her heroines are generally forgiving and sweet and innocent. Sometimes, even naive. But they aren’t dumb. They aren’t doormats. And they certainly aren’t whores just because they choose to forgive their heroes or can’t say no to touches and kisses that belong to someone they feel is their other half. I mean, how rude can you be?
The reason for this little rant is because I just finished a book of hers and went to review it, and instead of minding my own business, I noticed one of the lower-rating reviews. Normally, I don’t read those, because I know that not everyone will ever have a nice thing to say about a book, especially one written by someone whose work I highly admire and appreciate. But when I actually read the review, I couldn’t believe it. Hell, I couldn’t believe several things.
- they called the heroine pathetic
- they said she was too dumb to live
- they called her a whore
There are other things but I stopped at these because… for one, I just couldn’t believe that someone could be so hurtful with their words. I honestly could not believe that someone could be so cruel to a character I found to be terribly sweet and fragile. It bothers me because there are some women out there like this heroine, and for someone like this reviewer to say such nasty things does not sit right with me, because if they’re calling this heroine such things, they’re basically calling other women the same thing.
And that isn’t okay.
I could say a lot of things about the reviewer but because I was raised better, I can only say that this person was either hurt by the book and didn’t know how to channel that hurt and anger, or is just a sad, pathetic person who has all my sympathy. I truly hope they find some happiness.
This isn’t me telling you how to review a book you read, but I highly suggest you all do it with constructive criticism and helpful opinions. If something really bothers you, feel free to express yourself because others will feel the same, but explain why you felt hurt by this. Explain why you reacted this or that way. Be a positive person who says whether or not a book was bad and why, but don’t be that person that spreads hate and negativity. No one really wants that.
I recommend you reading a book or two of Marian Tee’s. They’re very hot and different and often times dark and heartbreaking, but they also teach about different types of love, and the need for forgiveness and understanding someone when they’re in pain. They teach you to think a little differently, to go after the person you love rather than delete them from your life. You fell in love with them for a reason, didn’t you? Love doesn’t just go away because you want it to. If there’s anything Tee taught me, it’s that love has no limits. And I don’t know about you, but I’d rather be a person who limits herself on drinks and junk food, and not on my capacity for love and forgiveness.
So please. Be nice to the books and authors you review.